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There will never be a period when everything will be great for everyone. There will never be a period when everything makes perfect sense and everything falls into place. No matter how hard we try or how many strategies we put in place, something will always throw a wrench in our well-intentioned schemes.
In the midst of a pandemic and now invasions, there are surely more stressors in our lives than usual. If you are feeling the heat and weight of every decision, you are not alone. Many of us are feeling this way. Here, we look at some ways you can cope when you are beginning to feel overwhelmed as a parent.
Avoid negative people
You may have parental burnout very fast if your support system is not there to encourage and support you. Stay away from negative people who do not have your best interests at heart.
While you will not be able to avoid everyone, you can ensure that the vast majority of the people in your life are rooting for you and are always available to you. It is sometimes necessary to dismiss people from your life who are not supportive of your goals.
You must surround yourself with individuals who are positive, on your side, and who will not pass judgment on any decisions you make for your family.
Have a great support network
In the same way that you want to stay away from negative people to the greatest extent possible, you also want to surround yourself with as many positive people as you possibly can. If you do not currently have a support system in place, you should put one in place.
You can meet other parents through playdates and support groups, as well as through your children’s school or even while standing in the check out line while shopping. Having other parents as resources is invaluable because they have been there and done that, and they can relate to exactly what you are going through right now. Confide in your own parent, a sibling, or another relative about the difficulties you are now experiencing in your current situation.
Take short cuts
If you have to take shortcuts once in a while – microwave meals, easy breakfasts such as this crockpot french toast, pre-cut vegetables, then so be it. It doesn’t do your mental health and energy any good to be a martyr!
Have a break
You are entitled to a break from your child’s presence every so often. Find a day-out program that accommodates your schedule and is reasonably priced. Check with a family member to see if they would be interested in hosting a regular playdate for your child, where they may come over for an hour or two every now and then.
Start a babysitting co-op with other parents to trade babysitting time at no cost to you. Investigate daycare options that are both flexible and economical for your family. And do not forget that your break should be spent for more than just running errands or doing household tasks.
Resist the temptation to cram too much in
When it comes to your children, you must be able to say no in the same way that you must know when to say no to yourself. Having children in various clubs and groups at various times every single day of the week is just not sustainable for you, or them.
Overscheduling your children may quickly lead to exhaustion for everyone involved, so learn when to say no in order to keep your sanity. There is always the following season for that sports team or other activity to look forward to.
Make an effort to schedule at least one day during the week when your family will not be required to go anyplace after school. Make your days more manageable so that you can fit in more leisure time, and you will reduce your chances of experiencing parental burnout.
You will not be able to achieve everything, so do not even bother trying. Saying no may cause you to feel guilty since you are not fulfilling all of the responsibilities that have been placed on you. However, this should not be the case.
It is important to know when to say no. You are only one person, and you can not possibly do everything.
Limit the number of projects you accept to two or even one at a time, and make sure you are not the assumed person to take something on all the time. If you don’t, you are setting yourself up for major parent burnout on a grand scale.